Devarim – Will You Still Love me… Tomorrow
In 1960 the song Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow, co-written by Gerry Goffin and Carole King, was recorded by the Shirelles. This song became the #1 hit in the United States, which was a first for a black, all girls singing group. Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow was subsequently recorded by many other artists over the years.
At its core the poem reflects the uncertainty of passion and love. Will it endure for the long term, will it remain steadfast tomorrow and beyond? Or will something, or somebody, else capture the lover’s attention, and the beloved will be discarded like yesterday’s newspaper? “Will you still love me tomorrow?”
Later on in Deuteronomy (24:5) theTorah teaches the Mitzvah of a newlywed couple spending the first year of their marriage with one another, and the groom must “gladden his wife” throughout that first year of their deepening relationship. This law exempts the groom from the draft – the military must give him a deferment during this year – although he is permitted to travel on business with his wife’s consent (many authorities believe this is only permitted when she agrees to his travel). One of the purposes of this law is to enable the newly married couple to demonstrate their devotion to one another, to assure the other that this is forever, to build the trust necessary for the foundations of a solid and enduring relationship. She should never feel the need to ask, “Will you still love me tomorrow.”
Contemporary halachic scholars suggest that in our time, when commitments have eroded in society, and our confidence and trust in the endurance of love has diminished, this “first year” extends for several years, giving enough time to compensate for the weaknesses of our society in t